Way back in 1995 (I was twenty-five at the time), I questioned myself with the goal of going back to school. I thought that perhaps I was being selfish because I was taking time away from the family. The children have always been my main priority in life, and knowing now that going back to college and becoming an RN was in fact one of the best things that I could have done for me, (and yes) for the children.
The children saw first hand what hard work can do for someone. I became a nurse, and enjoyed working in my field. I was meant to be a helper. I found out that I am capable and responsible, and truly filled with compassion. The role model that I was able to be encouraged the children in later years to know that they could do it too. My children were the first ones in our family to maintain excellent grades in college, work hard, and all of them to receive their baccalaureate degrees (I received my Registered Nurse Diploma). And for that I’m immensely proud and know that these goals are going to prosper throughout the generations. Anything they set their minds on can be within reach.
Taking care of oneself shows others how to also work hard to care for oneself and pursue personal goals. It is not being selfish to be a good role-model. It is good to spend the quality time when able though. I recall two years in a row studying for exams while my ex-husband and the children went apple picking. I missed those experiences, but thankfully my ex-husband jumped in to make memories. We were both thinking about the future, just in different roles and ways.