My “Friend”

 

True Friends

How do I get past a wrong that has been done to me?  It has been years that I have suffered due to this action, and I am still living with the after effects.  A “friend” thought that it was best to call Health and Human Services on me due to my husband’s anger, and I ultimately lived for years with the consequences.  I even acquired Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and lived with the after effects of this, and walked on egg shells for nearly twenty years.

I have a feeling I know who did this offense to me; she even called Human Services on her own daughter once.  Perhaps helping instead of destroying may have been a better approach.  She truly believes she is the IDEAL mother, the best of the best.  Trying to bring down others to make herself feel superior is not a quality of idealism.  It is better to help those that are in need before degrading them.  Also, looking for recognition and admiration for parenting decisions or abilities is not a normal activity.  It truly is not ordinary to live in need of parental esteem, or considerate and compassionate recognition – for that matter.

I truly feel sorry for her.  Living her life in need of recognition or esteem and tearing others down must cause an inner turmoil; or does it??  Perhaps she feels a superior obligation to devastate someone.  There are other ways to “help” people to maintain or bring someone in need a lift upward with love instead of tearing them apart.

I apologize for the irritable haste of splurging my emotions.  This has been decades in the making.  Finally, I am releasing the hurt and anger.  This is truly a releasing experience.  Life is only lived but once, and twenty years of my life were lived with fear, not only from an emotionally angry and abusive ex-husband, but from the repurcussions of his actions which may further destroy my life.  And these repurcussions were brought into view by the hand of a “friend”.

I release my anger.  I release my burden.  And I forgive you – not for you, but for me.

Parenting with Love

 

What is done in love

 

Who is the ideal parent anyway?  Is it the Christian that believes that their way of teaching is proper?  Is it all well meaning parents who spend time with their children and help them to grow with morals and integrity?  What is the right way?  If a parent is not a christian, but is the best parent a child can ask for, are they not an example of love?  

Just because a person is or is not living in the way of Christ in the upbringing of their children does not mean that they are less of a parent than those that are filled with pride over the fact that they are raising their children in less of a “worldly” way.  Isn’t pride or being boastful a sin as well?  Perhaps leading by example and doing ones best is the way to go.

Knowing that my children are decent and honorable human beings is the best reward for my efforts.  There is no perfect parenting guide out there, but there is a deep and beautiful love that most parents give unselfishly to their children.  Yes, all loving parents are worthy of respectful admiration.

Always With You

Cheering for you

Feel my love soaring behind you throughout the day, keeping you comforted and at peace.  Feel my love looking over your shoulder as you make each decision and feel the guidance within.  Feel my love pushing you to achieve all that you desire for you will become all that your heart wishes.  Feel my love protect you and embrace you each and everyday because I am with you throughout every minute and with each moment that passes.

The Art of Therapy

Spiritual in Calling

A professional therapist is a gift to have in one’s life.  Just to sort out feelings and sort out how to go about in dealing with life’s up and downs, a therapist can do all of this and support those decisions made.  A therapist to me is like a neutral friend on steroids.  My heart  and admiration goes out to each and every therapist out there that have those wonderful skills of empathy, mending, and true professionalism.  You all have great strength and true skills!  Cheers to you.

The Art of Therapy

Spiritual in Calling

A professional therapist is a gift to have in one’s life.  Just to sort out feelings and sort out how to go about in dealing with life’s up and downs, a therapist can do all of this and support those decisions made.  A therapist to me is like a neutral friend on steroids.  My heart  and admiration goes out to each and every therapist out there that have those wonderful skills of empathy, mending, and true professionalism.  You all have great strength and true skills!  Cheers to you.

How Time Changes Nothing

Never Changed

I realized today that I made the best decision to let my life go down the path that it has gone.  It is crazy how my life has changed so dramatically in the past eight years.  I am truly blessed to be walking down this path after the extreme turn in the road.

Some people respond to the lessons of life while others never see the problem in the first place.  How some can be blind to the hostility inside that rages is unimaginable.  Harmony is such a better place to be.

Paths diverge for many reasons.  The path I was on was divided in two  and I am so fortunate.  My strength and courage allowed this to be.  It is beautiful to stand up and have faith.